"As an experiement, it would be interesting to feed your daughter's fish a few days of watermellon and then introduce those fish into the pond of your non-watermellon eating koi. I would theorize that the new members would both 'teach' watermellon eating as a behavioral thing, AND also communicate hormonally/waste enzyme, that watermellon is not a danger but a meal.
JR"
...All of my daughters Koi came FROM my pond

where they had previously not cared for it either

Their taste for watermelon was acquired after they moved to her water... go figure.
I've got to agree with you about Koi communication though. One of them starts feeding and they all come running in short order. One of them gets spooked by something and in less than 1/2 second the entire pond reacts. The behavioral modification of a Chagoi introduced to a pond of seemingly "untameable" fish is another great example. The acceptance of handfeeding by observation of the Chagoi's natural tameness seems to be pretty universal.
The pecking order is another interesting study in behavior.
Last year when we introduced our fry into the main pond they all schooled together and the adults kept to themselves. One by one as they grew to 4"-5" they went from being "leader of the pack" amongst the fry school to "junior members of the pack" amongst the adults.
The other thing I thought really interesting was how the adults responded to the fry. At feeding time before the fry were introduced the adults would all come and get it as soon as the food hit the water. Once the fry became part of the picture, the adults would all hang back and wait for the babies to finish eating before coming over to have their meal. My theory is that they are hard wired for survival of the species by making sure the next generation thrives. Has anyone else observed similar behaviors?