I think (hope) Ken is smart enough to laugh at the whole thing, but it is very hurtful to Nancy. No one deserves that kind of treatment. This business seems to bring out the best and the worst in people. There are many awful rumors spread and threats made, especially via the internet and email.
Nancy, don't let the weirdos get you down. I know it is easy for me to say in this situation, but I've had plenty of my own that were just as hurtful. Remember that people all reveal their true 'self' eventually, and I like to think that a majority of people in the hobby can sort out the weirdos.
I'm sending off my email to Ken, but I don't think you'll need it!